How to Deal with Nurturers

Useful tips to get along with Nurturers

Jul 31, 2023

Way back then, I didn’t know what the Types of Personalities were.

If you are new here, this article would give you a brief introduction of what the personality types are.

Many years back, we had an event. I didn’t expect much but I was amazed how smooth and organised the event was. From welcoming of participants to registration to introduction, to the ice breakers and all the way to the closing.

After the event, we had a meeting, we celebrated for the job well-done, did our high fives 🙌 and had a very late bonding at a nearby cafe.

I suggested to one of the organisers that she be the one to speak on the next event, she just smiled and replied yes with hesitation. I assumed it was a yes. To my surprise, she didn’t participate anymore on our next meetings and she was making a lot of excuses.

I was disappointed because I thought we had all agreed, so we had to find someone to replace her.

It took me a while to talk to her and found out that she does not want to be on stage.

She just wanted to help out, do her best behind the scenes. But not on the stage.

At that time, I really couldn’t understand her. She had the chance to grow, do other things that she normally won’t do. But for her, she is very comfortable helping behind the scenes.

She is a very High Nurturer.

Here’s some tips how to get along with Nurturers.

If you are a Leader:

Leaders and Nurturers are extreeeeeeeme opposites. This will be your toughest adaptation.

Remember that Nurturers are people oriented while Leaders are action oriented
Nurturers are not weak.
Nurturers have the soft skills of nurture and support. Leaders have the hard skills like results and action.
Nurturers appear indecisive and passive.
Be more people oriented for a minute. Talk family and relationships.
Slow down. Just for a little while.
Ask questions and let the Nurturers talk. Draw them out.
We need an army of Nurturers for support. You lead, they train and nurture.
Be patient. Adjust your tone, it might scare them😅
Use words like “I need your help…”, “I need your support…”

If you are a Thinker:

You are both indirect, so a slow pace is okay.
Be more friendly. Go ahead. Try it!
Ask questions. Nurturers tend to hold back unless you probe.
Don’t rush, build rapport first.

If you are a Promoter:

Talking about feelings and relationships is okay, as you are both open.
You are both right brain creative thinkers
Slow down. That’s slooooow doooown …
Seek opinions as Nurturers tend to hold back.
Don’t talk so much! Let the Nurturers talk, as you can easily overpower them.
Use less energy – get mellow.
Don’t interrupt – LISTEN!
Don’t give your opinion – LISTEN!
Give time for trust building
Be warm and sincere.

I know it’s a lot to digest. Just be familiar with this.

I hope this can help you even for a bit.

Accordingly, 35% of the population are Nurturers. If you don’t understand them, that means you have a high chance of NOT Getting Along with 35% of the population!

But don’t worry, it’s not to late!

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